hi, just a reminder that it’s okay to change your name and pronouns as often as you want because gender identity can be hard to figure out
I really don’t think it’s a lot to ask for aromantic asexuals to be included in discussions as more than an afterthought.
I don’t think it’s a lot to ask people to stop saying “most” asexuals want romance (or children) as if aromantic asexual people are such a small minority they only deserve an afterthought.
I don’t think it’s a lot to ask for people to stop implying that a life without romance or children is sad or worthy of pity.
A directory for trans people with mental illness.
If you want to submit and be part of the directory, you can do so here.
I’m hoping to have this be more than just a directory and also include resources and helpful mental health stuff, so if you have links or stuff on trans mental health, you can submit those as well.
Anonymous said: Polish anon again! I have an abstract question. I think. Is it possible for an aromantic person to feel love, or does it make them alloromantic? Also, how to differentiate between love and other feelings/relations (I don't know how to name them), like Compassion or Loyalty?
“Is it possible for an aromantic person to feel love, or does it make them alloromantic?”
Look, I don’t think you meant any offense, but this is actually a really fucked-up question. Why? Because romantic love is not the only kind of love there is.
- I love my dogs. I am not romantically attracted to my dogs.
- I love my parents. I am not romantically attracted to my parents.
- I love teriyaki. I am not romantically attracted to teriyaki.
- I love my hometown. I love my friends. I love reading about philosophy, psychology and linguistics. None of these are romantic.
You get the idea. “Love” is a very broad word in English. Saying that someone “can’t feel love” pretty much means stripping them of every positive emotion and healthy relationship possible. And saying “love” when you actually mean “romantic love” or “romantic attraction” reinforces the common idea that romantic relationships are the only form of love worth considering, and all other forms are irrelevant and unimportant. Which is really harmful for aromantic people and our relationships.
I won’t blame someone for not realizing this, especially if English isn’t their first language. But, still, this stuff is important to me, and I want people to understand the implications of what they’re saying.
Also, there’s a creepy tendency for alloromantic people to ask questions like this as a way of making aromantic folks prove we’re still “normal,” or so they can have an excuse to ignore our aromanticism and treat us like we’re alloromantic, including stuff like pressuring us into unwanted relationships, or always putting aromantic characters in romantic relationships. (It’s similar to how asexual people sometimes get asked, “But you can still have sex, right?”) So, I tend to be really wary of questions like this, even if you mean well, because a lot of people have questionable motivations when they ask stuff like this.
I’m not gonna get into the love vs. loyalty vs. compassion issue. That sounds more like a question for ethical theorists to debate. I don’t think you’ll find a consensus answer for it.
The genderqueer pride flag is a Marilyn Roxie design, 3rd and final version created in June 2011, modified from version 1.0 in June 2010, and 2.0 in September 2010. The design is aesthetically similar to the gay and lesbian, bisexual, transgender, asexual, and pansexual flags; that is, horizontal bars of color with special meaning. The meaning of the colors in the genderqueer flag design are as follows:
Lavender (#b57edc): The mixture of blue and pink (traditional colors associated with men and women, present on the transgender pride flag) as lavender is meant to represent androgynes and androgyny. Also represents the “queer” in genderqueer, as lavender is a color that has long been associated with “queerness”, including gay, lesbian, and bisexual communities.
White (#ffffff): Meant to represent agender identity, congruent with the gender neutral white on the transgender pride flag.
Dark Chartreuse Green (#498022): The inverse of the lavender color; meant to represent “third gender” identity, i.e. those whose identities are defined outside of and without reference to the binary.
The three colors are not meant to indicate that any of these identities are entirely separate or opposites of one another conceptually; they are all interrelated as well as key concepts in their own right, and there are more concepts and variation of gender and sexuality present that tie into genderqueer identities than can be listed here. The purpose of the flag is to help create visibility for the genderqueer community and related identities.
Some insight into the history and meaning of the genderqueer pride flag.
Woman of the Day: Sylvia Rivera, she was a bisexual transgender activist. She was a founding member of both the Gay Liberation Front and the Gay Activists Alliance and helped found Street Transgender Action Revolutionaries. She was present at the Stonewall Riots, which happened today in 1969.
i saw another post going around about newly created genders and i wanted to see if there was anything i could think of, as i still haven’t really come across a gender identity that i felt worked for me. i can’t guarantee these are any good, and i haven’t checked to see if they’ve been in use elsewhere, so if u know if one is already in use pls let me know!
so here’s a little list of non-binary identities that i came up with and might add to
Okay so the aro ace spectrum really is a goddamned spectrum and it’s expanding every day it seems like. Individuals are coming up with new terms to define certain ace or aro attractions and it’s really cool in my opinion! Like, in contrast to other orientations that define WHO one is attracted to, ace and aro orientations define HOW someone is attracted to (an)other individual(s).
So me personally, I like to deal with things in lists for organisation. This is why I did the pronoun lists a while back! So I’m doing something similar for all aromantic and asexual identities I know of right now. I know many people are uncomfortable with automatically group aro and ace orientations together but they do overlap a lot seeing as they both describe how someone is attracted to others with the difference being sexually vs. romantically. So hopefully this isn’t a big issue, otherwise I’ll change it up and make two separate posts.
Asexual: Experiencing no sexual attraction
Demisexual: Experiencing sexual attraction only after a close bond has been formed
Grey-asexual: Experiencing sexual attraction rarely or infrequently
Akoisexual: Experiencing sexual attraction but having the feelings fade after the feelings are reciprocated. Akoisexual can also be further defined as not caring if the feelings of sexual attraction are reciprocated or not
Reciprosexual: Experiencing sexual attraction only after realising someone is sexually attracted to you
Kalossexual: Desiring a sexual relationship but never feeling sexual attraction towards anyone.
Requiessexual: limited or no sexual attraction/interest/activity due to some form of emotional exhaustion. Emotional exhaustion may be the result of previous sexual endeavors and past experiences dealing with sexuality, or from something else just as emotionally draining.
Aromantic: Experiencing no romantic attraction
Demiromantic: Experiencing romantic attraction only after a close bond has been formed
Grey-aromantic: Experiencing romantic attraction infrequently
Akoiromantic: Experiencing romantic attraction but having the feelings fade after the feelings are reciprocated. Akoiromantic can also be further defined as not caring if the feelings of romantic attraction are reciprocated or not
Quoiromantic: An attraction to (an)other individual where romantic or platonic attraction is indistinguishable
Reciproromantic: Experiencing romantic attraction only after realising someone is romantic attracted to you
Kalosromantic: desiring a romantic relationship but never feeling romantic attraction towards anyone.
Platoniromantic: Attraction where an individual feels no distinction between romantic and platonic attraction
Requiesromantic: limited or no romantic attraction/interest/activity due to some form of emotional exhaustion. Emotional exhaustion may be the result of previous romantic endeavors and past experiences dealing with romance, or from something else just as emotionally draining.
NOTES AND CREDIT
-Akoisexual/romantic are better known as lithsexual/romantic. The two words gained a new prefix proposed by tumblr user cisphobeofficial because the lith- prefix (meaning stone) was found to be appropriative of lesbian culture
-Quoiromantic is also known as wtfromantic but was given a new prefix by tumblr user epocryphal who is a French-Canadian individual and opens it up for usage by everyone who finds it applies to them
-Reciprosexual/romantic were coined by tumblr user knuxouge
-Kalossexual/romantic were coined by tumblr user acelyssie
-Platoniromantic was coined by tumblr user novusnova
-Requissexual/romantic were coined by tumblr user gay4dragons
isn’t it akoine- though? thats what i’d always seen.
thats my only comment, though, this is awesome
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Can you hear my Sonic Lesbian Fangirl Scream? (It’s my superpower.)
So I want to talk about this a little bit, because there are SO MANY LEVELS on which I love this.
Here we have a character who is confirming her queer identity without “coming out” because to her it isn’t odd or different. To her, kissing boys is odd and different. Kissing boys is a “phase” and having kissed a boy now makes her a stereotype.
America isn’t coming out to her friends, she’s having a chat about how she experimented once and it wasn’t for her. That’s it. This isn’t a coming out, although it is a confirmation of her sexual identity.
And it flips the common trope/stereotype of “I kissed a girl” on its head, quite literally. Which is funny and valuable in it’s own right, but you know why I really love it? Because this is a story that frequently happens to lesbians. We hear constantly about how straight girls kiss girls as experimentation, but we never hear that lesbian girls often do the same. I did. I had a “boyfriend” in middle school who I kissed once (we then promptly broke up. Guess who’s got a lovely husband now?) and when I was a freshman in high school I hooked up with a very sweet senior for a couple months. And yes, we kissed. I was so unbelievably not into it. And I didn’t even figure out I was gay for another 6 years. But this shit happens to lesbians. We try boys, because everyone says we should, but we don’t TALK ABOUT IT because our sexuality is constantly under attack. Lesbianism is always accused of being a phase, nevermind that for some lesbians the exact opposite is the case.
And that is why I love this single panel. And it’s why you should all still be able to hear my Sonic Lesbian Fangirl Scream, regardless of where you live.
Jules is pleased.
BREAKING NEWS: Today, an independent review panel in the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services ruled that Medicare cannot categorically exclude treatment for gender dysphoria, including transition-related care. This decision eliminates the nationwide rule that transition-related surgeries cannot be covered by Medicare. Learn more here:http://transequality.org/PDFs/MedicareFactSheet.pdf
I know that for a lot of non-binary and transgender folks, swimming can be a pain (especially with a lack of gender neutral swimwear). It’s hard to want to go to a pool or to the beach and enjoy all that it has to offer without having to force yourself into swimwear that isn’t necessarily comfortable.
Just today, a company by the name of Outplay opened its doors for people looking for gender neutral swimwear! For a limited time, they’re having a pre-order sale—up to 60% off!
There are two different types of swimming binders available, and they come in both high and low binding compression:
The Swimmie mid drift binding swim top (pictured above; navy and white) is cropped, like a sports bra, allowing your mid section to be free.
Here’s an example of a model, named Melo, wearing the low compression Swimmee binder and Tomboier shorts:
The Flatsea full-coverage binding swim top (pictured above in solid navy) is just like a swim tank! No more wearing a sports bra under a tank top!
Here’s an example of a model, named Alex, wearing the low compression Flatsea binder and Boi shorts:
The bi-colored Tomboier shorts (pictured above in navy with a white band) are a pair of swim shorts that can be paired with either swim binder of your choice.
The Boi shorts (pictured above in solid black) come in only solid colors and are longer than their Tomboier counterparts. The shorts can be paired with either top of your choice.
If you have any questions, please e-mail the Outplay company at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Disclaimer: All images are copyright to Outplay. I was given permission by Founder and President of Outplay, Marialexandra Garcia, to use these images in a blog post.
Seems pretty focused on trans masculine non-binary folks, but still cool!
I wanted to add that I asked the OP if they knew of any trans-feminine swimwear too, and they got back to me!
"I actually don’t know, but there are some swimsuits on Etsy that cater to trans feminine people.
I just figured that the current things that were for sale on the Outplay store catered to more than just those who are trans masculine. I don’t identify with either masculinity or femininity, and I had in my mind that it would do some good to share. ^^ But if you email the folks at Outplay and suggest more options for trans feminine people, maybe they’d add some new pieces. :D
Here are the links to trans feminine swimwear:
Thank you very much!
informational diagram on the inner workings of bisexuals
…But then what’s the context of the 2nd picture? Seriously, “Bisexual” and “Still Bisexual” doesn’t make any sense because you do not define what it means to be bisexual, and you seem to be trying to do just that.
apparently i, a bisexual, am not allowed to say bisexuals are not intermittently heterosexual and homosexual, but actually bisexual all the time
How dare bisexuals remind people that we are, in fact, bisexual, regardless of who we are dating.